Can I divorce my spouse without their knowledge?
James Craig
Published Apr 01, 2026
Your spouse cannot easily divorce you without your knowledge; the court will do all it can to make sure measures are taken to serve you with papers. If you refuse to respond to your spouse’s divorce petition, it will delay the process, but not prevent divorce altogether.
What happens if one spouse refuses to divorce?
When you file a divorce petition, you have to serve your spouse with the summons and petition. Your spouse then has 30 days to file a response after being served with a divorce petition. If your spouse fails to file and serve you with a response, you can file a request for default against your spouse after 30 days.
The Court does not make it easy to divorce a spouse without their knowledge. If the other spouse refuses to sign those papers and/or fails to respond to the proceedings, it may be possible to obtain a default judgment soon after – undermining the refuser’s rights to spousal support, property and retirement benefits.
What happens when one spouse doesn’t want divorce?
State and local rules may vary, but generally, if your spouse failed to respond to your divorce petition within 30 days, you may file a request to enter a default along with a proposed judgment. It may also be allowed when a spouse can’t be located for service. The court will set a hearing date and ask that you appear.
When do you get a divorce in South Africa?
You are entitled to a divorce: If you can prove to a court that you and your spouse can no longer live together and there is no chance of resolving your differences. You do not have to get your spouse’s permission to get a divorce. If your spouse is not willing to get divorced, you can get a divorce granted without his or her consent.
How can I start the process of divorce?
To start the divorce process you need to have a summons served. A divorce summons must be served personally on the defendant by the sheriff of the court. There are two types of divorces, contested and uncontested divorce.
How to get a divorce if your spouse refuses UK?
Apply for Deemed Service. Applying for deemed service is one way to get a divorce in the UK if your spouse refuses to return the acknowledgement of service form. You have to submit an application to the court to ask for the divorce to proceed without the completed form.
Can you get a divorce without your spouse’s consent?
If your spouse is not willing to get divorced, you can get a divorce granted without his or her consent. In special circumstances you may get your marriage annulled. An annulment differs from a divorce in that it not only dissolves the marriage but also wipes it off the record.